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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Take Stock of Who You Are to Overcome Inferiority Complex

If you've never taken the time to analyze who you are outside of the opinions of others, now's the time to start. Here's where you become acquainted with you, become your best friend and cheerleader and stop the fatal act of self-sabotage.

1) Alone time in self-contemplation

Spending time alone in self-contemplation, exploring who you are is the most important thing you could do to over inferiority complex and build self-esteem. When you know yourself, especially your strengths, you are becoming consciously aware of the hidden gems within you.

2) Be honest with yourself

In this quiet time, it's okay to be honest with yourself. No one else is around to put your down. So go ahead, be open and honest with yourself. Hiding behind a false image will not help you be prepared when others or circumstances throw a curve ball at you. Look at yourself in full view so you can be strengthened in times of negative feedback.

3) Make a list of your strengths

Okay, now that you're being honest, grab a pen and paper and write down all your strengths. Even if you have one or two to start with that's okay. Because as you put thought into this you'll find that you'll begin to uncover areas you never looked at before. Remember thoughts have a way of attracting other thoughts to them. You can always add more later on.

4) Make a list of your weaknesses

Now this list may be even longer than your list of strengths, but here's a trick. After you've listed your weaknesses, take each one and find a positive in it. There's always a flip side to everything. When you've found the positive, focus on it and look for ways to strengthen them even more. The point of this is that your 'perceived' weakness will now begin to become strong enough to overpower the actual weakness.

5) Go beyond the clouds - see the full sun

There's more to you than meets the eye. The giant in you may be hidden beneath the negativity of life. When you look within, accept you and allow greatness to emerge from within. Allow the clouds of negative thinking to dissipate so you may see the fullness of the bright sun hidden within you.

You are not a mishap or here by fluke. You are part of a grand intricate tapestry woven together by the Master Designer. Straighten your back, square your shoulders, lift your head and walk in boldness because you are more than you currently think you are.


  1. Thanks, Alicia. That was a very encouraging and inspiring post! Susan

  2. You're very welcome Susan. Thank you.

  3. Pessimists and perfectionists are mostly hit by low self esteem. One important thing to note though is that healing is a gradual process which requires a lot of time and energy. Sports can be a source of momentary releif. But people have always asked if there were ways of becoming permanently healed without drugs? That was a wonderful peice. Thanks a lot Alicia....vic

  4. You're very welcome Vic. So true about pessimists and perfectionists hit by low self esteem. It's the fear of failure that causes the perfectionist to be a perfectionist - what will others think if I fail or how would I look if I fail?

    Pessimists are afraid to hope just in case they fail as well. So for them it's better to expect the worst so they're not disappointed and they don't feel like a failure.

    Yes, I agree, healing is a process and sometimes it takes the form of uncovering layer by layer. As each layer heals another layer is uncovered. We are always growing and healing and restoration is a part of that growth process.

    Where sports is concerned, as you said, 'a momentary relief', it will take your mind off the issues for a while but sooner or later each of us must face ourselves, our own weaknesses/short-comings and deal with them in order for the healing process to truly take effect.

    Drugs is a band aid, a cover up of the true pain hidden within us. And yes, I do believe that we can be permanently healed without it.

    Again, it's a process and once we are open, honest with ourselves and willing to take the steps necessary to allow the healing balm of the Spirit to enter our lives without adding more injury to our own lives, healing with surely take place.

    Have a great day Vic.


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