I found this really great life-changing excerpt from the Unity Book "Living On Purpose: Creating a Life You Love." This really brings the point home to help you turn whatever situation you're repeatedly facing around. I can truly confirm that it really works because I've used these strategies in many areas of my life.
"If you are not happy with the things that are repeatedly happening in your life, or with the direction in which you seem to be moving, you can turn it around. But first you must understand that it is your life, that you live in a world of your own thoughts, and that you can change your life by altering your thoughts whenever you really want to do so.
This is not to say it is easy, but it is possible. Life is consciousness. You stand where you do today wherever that is, because of your consciousness. And there is only one way you can come to stand anywhere else – by changing your consciousness. If you wish to go up higher, you can do so, and there is no limit to the heights to which you can climb. But you must “repent,” which means to be …transformed by the renewal of your mind … (Rom. 12:2).
Jesus said: “In the world you have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world” (Jn. 16:33). There is a level of life where states of consciousness give rise to limited conditions, and where a cycle of causation flows in a kind of negative momentum. “I have overcome the world” means getting into a higher level of consciousness, experiencing freedom from the limited cycle of causation.
If you are unemployed, you may feel “out of it.” To turn this experience around, you must get out of the “out of it” consciousness, and get into the “with it” and “in it” feeling. You may pray for work and get another job, but unless you have reversed the patterns of consciousness that led to unemployment, you have temporarily solved the problem. One person was excitedly testifying to the value of Truth in his life, “I have demonstrated three jobs in the past year!” This is a hard way to go about it!
“I have overcome the world.” Get into a higher level of consciousness. Stop thinking of work as something to demonstrate “out there.” Get the feeling that it is a part of your nature that work comes through you and not to you. If you are unemployed, get the feeling that you are ready for work. Think movement, activity, work, service.
A man on welfare for 10 years, discovering that the experience crippled him in terms of his self-worth, volunteered in a special program of community service. It could be the means of turning his life around, for in the process of work, even without pay, he will open up within him the flow of creativity. Countless human lives could well be salvaged if his example were followed.
If you are not satisfied with the direction your life has taken, or with the experiences that continually manifest, you can change by getting into the kind of attitudes and feelings that you assume you would have if you were now experiencing the desired conditions. You may object, “But I feel tired and defeated; how can I help that?” Feelings are not beyond the control of the will. You are not your feelings. You have feelings, and the you that has feelings can control them and reverse them.
It is never too late to turn your life around, to break the patterns of negativity that keep manifesting themselves as age and deterioration, as inharmony and loneliness, as illness and physical discomfort, and as financial insecurity and lack. You will have to “repent” and follow the higher way of living and thinking. Wake up from your self-limiting thought … and you will experience the ceaseless flow of your own good."
Excerpted from Celebrate Yourself! By Eric Butterworth (Unity Books, 2004, fifth printing).
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