Getting My Body Back Friday - Overcoming Fear of Failure - Mindset #5

As a toddler, you were determined to walk and you were not willing to settle with just holding on to walking. You wanted to do more. You were determined to let go and walk without holding on. You wanted to run as well. You wanted to walk backwards even though your mother's heart was probably in her toes lol because she didn't want you to hurt yourself. 

Be determined to be the best at what dream you decide to follow and when you master one level, go for the next and the next. Reach for the stars and keep going until you discover more galaxies you never knew existed in your own life.

This brings us to Mindset #5 - Be determined to reach your goal 

Determination in the face of fear will penetrate any dark clouds that try to distort your path toward your goal. Determination has a way of giving you the courage to try once more, to get up even when you've fallen and lost your zeal. 

If you're struggling for some time to achieve your health goals and you're beginning to feel fear of failure because you've tried so many times without success, keep pressing forward. Get determined in your mind. Don't settle for repeating the same things over and over if you want to get different results. Try changing your strategy. Mix things up a bit. Try something new. Turn within to find what works for your body type. 

Some children before they actually begin to walk deviate from the status quo; they may push up on their hands with their bum in the air or some may drag themselves along on the bum - various methods to achieve the same results of walking.

What's your method to achieving your weight goal? Is it working? If not, add some variety, perhaps interchanging with some weight training or actually using your own body weight to add resistance to help build those muscles. 

Whatever method you choose, be determined to get the results you want and don't stop until you do.

Action Thursday - Fear of Failure - Developing the Mindsets to Overcoming Fear of Failure - Part 4

As a child when you learned to walk, you looked forward to each day with renewed energy. When you opened your eyes no one could keep you from trying again. You did not dwell on the past. You didn't allow yesterday's spill to hinder today's progress. It seemed as if you had forgotten all about falling on your butt. 

Here's Mindset #4 - Awake each day with renewed enthusiasm 

It’s time to let go of yesterday's failure because they do not define or determine tomorrow's success. They can only hinder you if you dwell on them and take your eyes off the prize, off your target. 

Use these action steps to generate enthusiasm. 

Action step #1 - Using Mindset #4 as an affirmation repeat with conviction, “I awake each day with renewed enthusiasm to achieve my goal. I release my fear from my past failures and I’m open to today’s successes.” 

Action step #2 – Focus on what you can do today that will bring you closer to your goal. What can you do differently than the other times that will better your chances of success? 

Action step #3 – What lessons did I learn from my previous mistakes. Look for the hidden gems in your last attempt. They’ve left clues for you to improve but you’ll only see them as you look, not with the eyes of failure, but with the mindset of enthusiasm to glean the invaluable lessons waiting for you to grasp.

Fear of Failure - Developing the Mindsets to Overcoming Fear of Failure - Part 2

You have everything you need inside of you to be successful. As a child you were not told it's time to learn to roll over, crawl or walk. You knew this instinctively and you were never afraid to try. Failure was never an option or a part of your thinking. You can revisit your child-self from the past and pull up on these inner strengths. 

Here's the 2nd Mindset to overcoming fear of failure.

Mindset #2 - I am developing my success muscles 

When you were learning to walk, your muscles were not strong enough at first to support your weight. Neither did you completely understand the mechanics of balance.

As you practiced each day, your muscles became stronger and you became more aware of how to balance your weight. Your body and mind made the connection between the desire to walk and the physical muscular mechanics of balance. Each time you fell, you learned that that was not the way to stand and you made the mental and physical adjustments each time. 

So you see your 'failures' are part of the natural learning process of skill development. 

Key: Instead of looking at your failure as being bad, look at them as part of the strengthening and learning process. Make the adjustment, change your strategy, come from a different angle and try again.

When your mind is taken over by fear, it's difficult to see how 'falling'/failing could be of any good. But remember that life is a growth process. We don't perfect something the first time we do it. We become better and better as we practice and we gain more confidence each day. 

Fear of Failure - Developing the Mindsets to Overcoming Fear of Failure - Part 1

So why have you become so fearful of failure? Why have you stopped believing in yourself and in your ability to succeed at anything you set your mind to? You are not a failure. You are a powerhouse of success energy. Somewhere along your life's journey you developed the fear of failure because you most certainly were not born that way.

Your inner nature is strong, confident and fearless but you were reprogrammed by your social and societal environment to become fearful if you failed.

You see, when you first began to learn to walk were you afraid that you'd never be able to do it? Even when you fell, did you give up or even felt like giving up? As a matter of fact, because you saw your siblings walking around, you were determined to master the art of walking because you believed that if they can do it so can you.

So let's begin to uncover those qualities that made you surpass failure and setbacks so you can develop the mindset to overcoming fear of failure. Today we'll look at Mindset #1.

Mindset #1 - You were born a success

Incentive #1 - You have the seed of success inside of you. Out of the millions of sperms from your father and millions of eggs from your mother, you survived, grew to maturity and now you are here. 

We often take this for granted. But if you think about the competition among the millions of sperms striving to reach the egg, you can see how amazing it is that you're here. From the millions of eggs that your mother possesses, the egg that became you was the one that was released at that time when it did. It could have been someone else. That should give you enough incentive to keep trying knowing that the odds of you being here was one in a million. 

Incentive #2 - Despite all the things that could have gone wrong in the womb and in the birthing process, you are here. And in spite of all the things that you think may have gone wrong in your life, look at all the successes you have had - don't forget to count the small ones. Small successes lead to large ones

Accept your birthright as being successful. Agree with your successes and disagree with your failures. What do I mean by that? Choose to believe that you are successful and in those areas that you feel that you've failed in, look for the opportunities of success-gems hidden in them. Because you are born a success whatever occurs in your life has to have the seed of success waiting for the right conditions to germinate, mature and produce successful fruit. 

Look out tomorrow as we cover Mindset #2.